This is important to see and understand for everyone. Please, if you see someone in a public restroom that you think might not belong there because they don’t look like you, don’t scream or yell at them, have some compassion and go about your business.
Does anyone else notice a problem with this? If the problem is that men beat people up, why is the commenter saying the solution is for women to not yell? Why don’t you go right to the source and just say “Men, don’t beat people up”? Sorry, followers, I’ve been seeing this around and I just felt I had to say something. I’ll get off the SJ train now.
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I also want to add that some people really don’t belong in the woman’s restroom, and we shouldn’t jeopardize their safety by saying “Don’t yell at people who look like they don’t belong in the woman’s restroom.”
Except you can’t show a topless woman on TV - and you can’t defibrillate a woman in a bra. So victims of heart attacks on TV are *always* male. Did you know that a woman having a heart attack is more likely to have back or jaw pain than chest or left arm pain? I didn’t - because I’ve never seen a woman having a heart attack. I’ve been trained in CPR and Advanced First Aid by the Red Cross over 15 times in my life, the videos and booklets always have a guy and say the same thing about clutching his chest and/or bicep.
And people laugh when I tell them women are still invisible in this world.
And people laugh when I tell them women are still invisible in this world.
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Things I did not know, but should. (via elfgrove) This is a post that might save a life. (via str8nochaser) My mom worked for 25 years as an ER nurse and is convinced that a lot of women die simply because folks only know heart attack symptoms that occur in males. (via darkjez) (via understandingghosts) I remember seeing this post a while back, and I’m pretty sure people were making a calamity about it being “cissexist,” driving the original poster to apologize for it. |
it’s actually pretty horrifying that “radscum” is the term du jour to refer to any woman who states a controversial opinion
by calling them scum you’re dehumanizing every woman who dares to disagree with you
what a novel idea under patriarchy
one of the laziest ways of attacking radical feminism that ive seen recently was when ghosts-of-algren claimed that a radical feminist said that bell hooks was a liberal feminist for being too intersectional.
i mean thats so obviously dumb and wrong because bell hooks is a radical feminist and every radical feminist i’ve read who talks about bell hooks says she’s a radical feminist. radical feminism has been one of the branches of feminism most dedicated to including race and class in their analysis of gender for the past couple decades.
if you don’t think that his hatred of radical feminism is heavily based in people pointing out how disgusting his porn use and porn gifs are then i dont know what to tell you
I think I should speak up about male socialization and how a female bodied person can’t have complete male socialization as a boy can. And vice versa. I speak as someone who was raised ‘as a boy’ (was dressed as one, allowed to think I was one, and strangers were allowed to think I was one) until I was about 4 years old. I have met two other people in my whole life who were ‘raised as’ the opposite sex for any amount of time.
Number one, these stories are rare. Being allowed to wear what you want and play with what you want is not being socialized as the opposite sex. I’m only counting deliberate attempts to decieve the child *and other people* of the childs sex - and as you can imagine only a disturbed/unstable guardian would do this.
Number two, this child will only be socialized as the opposite sex for a couple of years, max - of course the lie can’t stand up when the child reaches school age and obviously their legal sex trumps any misdirected fantasy of their carers. The woman I know who was raised as a boy is an exception, but her prolonged male socialization was only managed by isolating her. This is an extreme case. Sooner or later, unless a child is incarcerated, the fact of their biology is going to be discovered by the world and they are going to be treated accordingly. If a child is locked away, can we agree this is not a normal socialization from this point anyway?
I won’t say this 4 year window of socialization had zero affect on me. I struggled with gender identity issues and people still read something ‘off’ about me. But whatever short time we were socialized as the opposite sex did not overwrite the rest of our socialization. Thats the point I’m making.
-anon
I love that if you are even remotely critical of the trans community on tumblr, you are either an evil evil DIE CIS SCUM™ bigot or you’re just not “educated” enough. I’m not even talking about radical feminist blogs in this instance, I’m speaking specifically about blogs run by trans people who are branded “truscum” on this site.
It doesn’t ever occur to these people that the reason so many people call out this bullshit is precisely because they’re educated. These people are aware that there is a huge problem with gender roles in our society and they see people going “I don’t like dresses, therefore man!” and it worries them, if not outright pisses them off. And I can fully see why these people are pissed off.
These are people have suffered the sex dysphoria (you know, that unfashionable thing that exists only due to “internalised cissexism”) and gone through years of pain before realising that transition was their only option. To come on here and see people shouting “Play with gender!”, “I love my sex organs!”, and “Being trans*** is so cool and ~queer~” must be a huge slap in the face.
If you want to be a sparkly genderfuck then that’s fine, whatever, it’s your life and you’re the one who’ll be laughed at when you tell your boss that you’re a boi today because you’re wearing a pair of pants. But don’t act like you speak for transsexual people (you know, the ones the community was built around). Don’t act like your struggles are remotely comparable, because I’m sorry but there’s a huge difference between “I want a binder/breast forms/whatever to pass” and “I need to have these things to ease the crippling sex dysphoria I feel on a daily basis, the dysphoria that often leaves me feeling suicidal”.
Finally, for the love of god, stop telling people with transsexualism (you know, that medical condition you think is all fun and games and ~*GLITTER*~) that they’re bigots for saying you’re not transsexual if you love your sex organs. Because guess what, you’re not! You can be whatever other label the cool kids are using these days, but you can’t be transsexual (or have GID) and love your sex organs because one of the criteria for diagnosis is a “persistent discomfort about one’s sex”. You can’t have generalised anxiety disorder without ever feeling anxious, you can’t have GID without a persistent discomfort about your sex.
pronouns, pronouns, pronouns
“masculine pronouns” and “feminine pronouns” are not a thing. you can be a feminine-identified person and use he or they or ze or sie, etc. you can be a masculine-identified person and use she or they or ze or sie, etc. i am a feminine-identified (not female) person and my feminine pronouns are they and he. tired of seeing this everywhere.
Not even pronouns signify a person’s gender identity.
furiosity replied to your photo: Apparently men wearing “feminine” clothing being…
oh, men’s clothes are considered more socially acceptable on anyone, so females who wear them are like, super privileged because of our vaginas. GOTCHA No, wait, WHAT?That’s how privilege works, right?
Yes, fellow FAAB trans* people, being perceived as female and treated the way society treats women is shit.
No, we do not have it as bad as MAAB trans* people and never will.
There are no magic forcefields preventing you from receiving messages that were intended for people of a gender different to your birth assignment (which may or may not be your identity).
You think trans* men don’t receive any male socialisation? We do, actually. We’ve all been exposed to toxic masculinity. We have all been taught to do certain things in order to be a “real man” according to whatever culture we are associated with. We’ve all been taught to view femininity and women as lesser.
You cannot tell me you have never had male socialisation as a trans* man. You’d also be incorrect in saying that trans* women are socialised the same as any men. They’re not, they all receive the same stuff as cis women, but they’re punished for even expressing it, far more harshly than for a FAAB person expressing masculinity.
You’re just trying to say trans* women are “really men”, and calling them “deceivers”, in another transmisogynistic kind of way.
If you’re repeating yourself because people don’t believe a word of what you’re saying, perhaps you should examine your argument. First, transmisogyny doesn’t exist. Trans women are absolutely subject to discrimination via misogyny and transphobia. However, there is no extra level of misogyny reserved specifically for trans women. So, when people call you out on your bullshit, they’re attacking your argument, not trans women.
Anyway! While you were learning all about toxic masculinity growing up, it was as a female-bodied person. That means you weren’t socialized in it, because your family didn’t recognize you as a boy and didn’t socialize you for a lifetime of growing into manhood and exemplifying all those toxic things you talk about. Trans men can totally have male privilege when they blend in society, but this is conditional and honestly, can be flipped in a second if their trans history becomes known. However, non-blending trans men do not have any male privilege to speak of, and again, have that pesky female socialization getting in the way of obnoxious and oppressive behavior. Fancy that.
By the way, if I’m reading you right, female-bodied trans men are socialized as men because of male supremacy, buuuut male-bodied trans women are not privileged due to their sexed positionality because there are no women around?
- X
As a real live CAMAB MAAB DMAB (read: male) person who hates the shit out of my body, I can verifiably tell you that I sure as hell did receive male socialization. My socialization was different from the rest of the boys my age, but it was because of my racial and ethnic background, not because of my sex.
Bodies matter. We don’t get to simply identify our way out of our body.
-Y
